Gold Digger
Bassy

You've been seeing this girl for a while. She's beautiful. Her body is great, her voice is smooth, she's exciting to be with. She loves football, is never late for dates, and she seems to really like spending time with you. In fact, she seems like Ms. Right. You start to think she could be The One... Does she like your money? But then you think back. You notice that she seems to love nice resturants. You've never been to anything medium priced with her. It's probably a coincidence, but you have never gone anywhere with her that didn't cost a fair chunk of change, and she sure does seem to go for your new car. So you start to wonder - is she more interested in your money than in you?

A lot of men get caught in this trap, and a lot more are worried that they are. Who would want a woman who only wants you for what you can give her? Shouldn't a woman be interested in you for who you are?

Looks for money

Sure, you'd like the answer to be an unqualified "yes". But there are two things going on here that you might want to consider. First is that a lot of guys are attracted to women primarily because of how they look. Being seen with a sexy woman makes us more important to our peers and to ourselves. It's great to have model-quality girlfriend - but then you aren't really inter- ested in her for who SHE is, but only how she looks. And a lot of men DO make their girlfriend choices based first on looks. Well, if you're interested in her looks primarily, maybe it evens out if she would like you to pay for the good times. There is no reason she should be any more concerned with who you really are than you are concerned that her beautiful face and hot body hides a real person. Maybe it's a fair trade. It's not that you're paying her, so perhaps you can enjoy a centerfold date and she can enjoy the hot clubs and resturants. After all, everyone you go out with doesn't have to be true love.

Is it you?

Here's the other thing you might want to consider - many a guy has suddenly started worrying that his girlfriend (or, worse, fiance!) is more interested in bank balance than she is in him. But sometimes the problem is also in the way he has tried to impress her. If you bring a girl expensive flowers every time you pick her up, if you take her only to nice resturants and expensive clubs, of course she's going to enjoy it. That doesn't make her a gold digger - everyone likes going some- where nice. A lot of men try so hard to impress his date that she doesn't really get a chance to show whether or not she'd also like staying home and watching a video on t.v. or going to a little chinese place on the wrong side of town.

Sure, there are women out there who are always on the prowl. They trade their company for expensive gifts. But just because a woman likes to go to nice places when you offer to take her doesn't make them a gold digger.

Just make sure that if you date a woman several times, you take her to a variety of places and experiences. If she turns you down several times for average places and accepts every time you take her somewhere nice, you can either drop her or ask her directly why this happens. If she accepts both kinds of dates with enthusiasm, she might be Ms. Right.