Breaking Up
Adam Bull

When its over, let go. Most people don't know how to let go when a relationship is over. They hold onto some false hope that some day it will all be okay again. The quicker you get over a break up, the better off you will be. If you allow it to set into your mind that she dumped you, you will go crazy. Why kick a dead horse? Get over it pal! There is no other choice. There is nothing you can do. If she doesn't want to be with you anymore, nothing you can do will bring it back. Why would you want to? You know that it will just end again? I tend to think that people don't like change. They want everything to stay the same regardless of how awful it is

She may have treated you like a piece of shit, but you can't let go of her. Letting go of her means that your world will change. Sometimes I think going through a break up is almost like going through with a death of a loved one. You go through the same emotions, well, maybe not to the extent that you do when someone dies, but I think it is all relative. Your first stage is shock. How the hell could she do this to me? Doesn't she know that I love her?

Then comes denial. She didn't break up with me, she just needs some time away. After she gets cooled off she will come to her senses and take me back. Here comes anger. You get pissed that she dumped you. How could that bitch dump a good man like you? Then comes the depression. This is a hard one, so I'm going to spend a little extra time on this.

This depression can last days, weeks, months, or years. I have personally seen this last for years. I was hurt that my ex dumped me. I went through all the emotions that people go through. I cried for years wondering how she could live without me. If she really loved me, then how can she live so many years without me? Then we have acceptance. You now accept the fact that she is gone and there is nothing that you can do.

It is nothing more than a waste of good breath to allow this to last more than a few weeks. No woman is worth more than this. She could have a nipples of gold and a vagina that smells like musk oil, it doesn't matter. Why let it go further? Hasn't she ruined your life enough? I think men have a harder time coping with a break up than a woman does. Men get so stuck in the routine, that is becomes like quick sand. Almost impossible to get out of, and only if you are lucky you come out unharmed. It is also harder for a man to find a new mate. He has to go through all the stuff he went through to get the last one. You remember how many hoops you had to jump through just go get a date, lets not think about the extremes you had to go to get some action.

It is easier for a woman to find a new mate. She can flaunt her stuff and men will come and adorn her. It doesn't take much. Think about it.... A woman doesn't have to do much to catch your eye? Maybe wear something sexy, give you a sexy look, or hell, if you are horny enough just talk to you. Sometimes I think it would be great to get a sex change and be a woman, but I don't think I could ever get used to the smell of sweaty balls. Very few things in life are worth getting upset over. To be honest, regardless of how much you were in love, no woman is worth it. The only woman who is worth it is your mother, but she loves you regardless of what you do in life.

Don't get upset over useless shit. If you feel that you can't cope with it, go talk to a therapist. It isn't as silly as it sounds. They will help you get over it. If you don't have the money to talk to a therapist, in some cities there are mental health clinics that offer payments on a sliding scale. What this means is, they will charge you based on your income. If you are poor, you won't have to pay anything. If all else fails, go find a minister or someone with an ear to listen to you. If you can't find a way to cope, you need to find someone who can help you. Because it will effect the rest of your life. Why spend all your time going crazy because of some woman, when you could be out enjoying yourself with a new lover? Don't you deserve to be happy?

Lastly, don't turn to drugs or alcohol. This will only make things worse. Eventually you will become dependant on them and you will be in an even bigger mess. Love yourself, keep yourself out of the way of danger.